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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I have been married 15 years, 4 kids together. He is a family physician and I work part time and take care of the kids. Last year, we had a huge bombshell that went off in our marriage when my MIL suddenly and viciously attacked me and he did not defend me. He is a passive, conflict adverse, easy going person and struggles to stand up for himself or for me when we're attacked or criticized. This is very hard for me to accept as I truly value having a passionate partner who will have my back when needed.

We spent the last year in a lot of therapy to heal the rift. He has been coached by the therapist to be more assertive/aggressive to defend us. I thought that the problem had been fixed and was feeling overall positive about the situation. However, last week a similar incident with another person occurred and my DH repeated the same hide in his turtle shell, then come out to criticize me for my actions behaviors after the fact that caused us to have such a deep crisis a year ago. [b]When I confronted him about it, he expressed regret but says at this point I need to accept who he is and how he reacts to conflict. 
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At this point, I feel done with this relationship. I dont want to spend my life married to a wimpy man. It almost seems better to be alone since I do feel alone in handling life's difficulties.

However, there is no abuse, no drinking, no adultery. We have a good sex life and an overall happy family life.

Advice appreciated. Thanks![/quote]

Doesn’t sound like he is as much of a wimp as you make him to be.  The guy actually has spine, you just don’t like it.  Team husband.

And to answer your original question, go ahead, make him happy.[/quote]

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