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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't let anybody come over without flu/TDAP and this was pre-covid.  Only very, very close family (grandparents, essentially) met her before 2 month shots, and then more after 4 month.  All of this was pre-covid, and I would have no problem being stricter now. [b] Nobody visits the first week, that's insane.[/b]  I would simply say no to that - do not come in from another state before the 6 week mark, it will not be worth the travel because we won't be up for visitors or baby-holders until the 6 week mark.

Most importantly, drill this list and your concerns with DH, and make sure he knows it's *his* job to make sure his family isn't getting on your nerves.  It's your job to recover from childbirth and try to establish breastfeeding.[/quote]

You sound really, really weird and insular [/quote]

You think it's normal to host houseguests the day you get home from the hospital?  Not just normal, but choosing not to do that is "really, really weird"?  I barely had a shirt on the first two weeks I was home, there's no way I wanted my in laws sleeping on my floor.  I'll stay weird and happy, you be a doormat if it's normal to you.[/quote]

Huh. First of all, you said “having visitors in the first WEEK is insane”, not the first day home from the hospital. Totally different. That said, nothing doormat-y about it; I love my family and have loved witnessing them meeting my babies - I feel sad for you that you don’t have the same. [/quote]

[b]Well, not everyone has a loving family nor loving in-laws. And love can be provided in so many ways, it does not require immediate presence. [/b]

My issue wasn't even family, it was DH's friends. Day 5 (from birth so day 3 being home) asked to come over and wanted to bring their toddler up as well. Ummmm no. But I was made to feel like I was being anxious because I knew a fever at the newborn stage could be an issue, and let's be real, toddlers are germ factories. Nor did they offer to bring anything- coffee? no. lunch? no? Drinks and snacks for nursing mom? no. Just their presence.  :roll: 
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Yes, agree, everyone’s circumstances are different. Which is why PP’s statement: “No visitors in the first week; that’s insane.” was, well, insane. [/quote]

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