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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op a couple things:

A) my dad is 75 and sounds like your dad in that he’s also very immature and very selfish and so I somewhat understand that aspect of what you describe w your dad
B) I understand why you wouldn’t want to have to care for him and/or have the mental burden of helping him through the elder years for the next 20 years
C) you are really getting all worked up about something that most likely won’t happen. My grandmother just died at age 97 and she outlived my grandfather by 13 hears as well as outlived every single one of her large group of same-age male and female relatives, friends, and neighbors in the assisted living facility, most of whom died 10-15 years ago. It is very very unlikely your dad will live to age 97.

Maybe your dad is in denial of his own aging. He doesn’t want to face the likelihood that he doesn’t have much time left so proclaiming he “plans to live to age 97” (I mean I want to do a lot of things that probably won’t happen too so I get it—why can’t he wish/hope) may really just be his denial and fear of death.

I think like another poster said just be glad that he’s optimistic and hopeful and not like my in laws who are mid 70s and healthy but have very doomsday thinking (like they’ll be staying at our house and when we go to bed we’ll say “goodnight see you tomorrow” and they’ll respond  “I hope I’ll still be here tomorrow…”)[/quote]

Thank you so much, PP! It helps a lot [/quote]

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