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[quote=Anonymous][quote]You have a problem with a wife being confident in her husbands choices? Or is that your faux feminist zest speaking before you have had a chance to think clearly? So wives should not be confident in their husbands choices? They should second guess everything, and criticize him to the core?

Yes, a man should be able to make decisions, and his wife should have confidence in him. I am sorry you have a problem with that. Women should be able to make decisions as well. Does that bother you, or is it just when I say that men should be able to?

Are you inserting an "all"  or "every" in my statements when those words are not there? Or does the thought of a man being able to decide anything for himself just seem utterly absurd to you?[/quote]

Please dispense with your recently discovered faux evenhandedness.  You wrote this:

[quote]A wife's role is not to compete with her husband, boss him around, complain about everything, run over him, etc. Instead she should learn the art of femininity. It's not a bad thing to be supportive, encouraging, and kind. In fact, you'll get more of what you want if you learn how to properly treat your husband. (Aside from the exceptions I mentioned before). Life will be easier for you if you learn where your power lies and how to use it...or you can keep doing what you are doing and you will be forever complaining about your husband.

Men too, have a place or a role to play. It's not to ignore their wives, belittle them, sit on the couch and play games all day, etc. Instead they need to learn how to love their wives, truly love them and make it known. She should feel like a Queen. She should feel safe with you, confident that you can make the right choices, loved, and protected. [/quote]

No matter how you try to backtrack now, it's clear that you believe men are the primary decisionmakers, head of the household, all that crap.  (And, if women are so empowered, how come you didn't include an admonition that a man shouldn't second-guess his wife?)  But, I'm willing to admit it if I'm wrong.  So, convince me.  What decisions should men make?  What decisions should women make?  Is it first-come, first served, or are there clear distinctions in their areas of responsibility?  Is there any overlap?

And by the way, I'm a man.  So please don't feel like I don't know my place.   It's not just women who think you're absurd.  [/quote]

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