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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents and ILs want to be invited to everything for DC. Currently MIL is mad at me because we didn’t invite them to a school program. It honestly didn’t occur to me. This was a first school program we as PARENTS had every even been to due to Covid. My grandparents never came to any of my school programs. I doubt my parents invited them. Some times I just want to do things with just our immediate family.

[b]Also, they very rarely offer to help out with DC. [i]I’m in desperate need of help a couple hours 2x a week for the summer that they could easily help with, but nope.

What’s typical for your family? We already see one set of grandparents weekly, another every couple of weeks. [/quote]This makes me think you want a quid pro quo relationship.  [/quote]

Oh yeah, it's so unreasonable for OP to question why grandparents want to come to every last event but can't offer to babysit for an hour every couple months to give her some breathing room. Why should the grandparents get a relationship only on their terms?[/quote]

Op here. Thank you. I’ve spent $100K plus on all forms of childcare. I’m not asking them to take care of my kid for lengths at a time, just maybe offer to help when you hear we have a scheduling issue or offer for a date night. For having 4 able bodied grandparents within 20 min of us, we sure are on an island [/quote]

If you have $100K to spend on childcare they probably assume you can afford a little more.  Not all grandparents want to babysit, some would prefer to just go to a school event.  When you are a grandparent you can be whatever kind you want to be.[/quote]

Sure not all want to spend time where they are responsible for child care.  Instead of using the word babysit for grandparents, some consider it as spending quality time with their GC.  The close warm bond isn't built by attending their shows or sports events.  GP, family, are hopefully people above the level of babysitter for hire.

We had 1 person who started as a babysitter and became  a close famiy friend- used to sit on same schedule when my parents were there and times when the GP and I were also present.  My mom even went shopping with her.  Me home with 1 kid - 1 at the store. Fine special attention. [/quote]

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