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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adoption has been sold as this "harmless" alternative to an unwanted pregnancy.  Because in theory, the only person harmed was "the sinner" mother who got pregnant in less than ideal circumstances.  So advertising it as a saving grace for the baby and new family has deep political undertones because some people don't mind harming women to save babies.

Is it really better to essentially auction off a baby for $10-$50k to a "stable" family than to invest that $10k-$50k into the birth mother's life and help her raise her own child?  That's the question society should be asking.[/quote]
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Exactly

So, for those who were adopted in this time period, how do you look at your life now?[/quote]

[b]I was adopted in the mid 1970s. Very happy with my life and my family, and very close relationship with my parents (one of whom is now deceased). I have not reached out to identify or try to have contact with my birth family.  But honestly given what a great childhood and life and family I have (only child in a close knit family, attended private schools and highly ranked college/grad school), I am glad that my birth family placed me for adoption.  I know that’s not the answer you’re looking for but it’s my reality. [/b][/quote]

I am not looking for any answer. However, the narrative around adoption has changed since the 1970s, and there is a lot of education and  activism around this.

Since you haven't looked for your birth family, and might have limited information, or no information. Some of that information might offer a new perspective.

I am also happy I  had the life I had, but I can also accept what happened  here and all over the world  as wrong. I can also examine my life and the choices I made, and the experiences I had as things that happened because  of my adoption.  The circumstances surrounding my adoption were seriously egregious, looking at it by today's lens, but that doesn't mean I am not  happy with the life I had. Two things can be true at the same time.  There is no agenda here. [/quote]

I was born/adopted in the mid-1970s, as well, and had a similar experience (I have one sibling, also adopted, and am close to my parents and think they were excellent parents).  I don't have much information about my biological mother, but I'm okay with that.  Sometimes I feel mild curiosity, but I have a mother and am not really on the lookout for another one.  I truly don't need anyone to tell me how I should feel.  I can recognize that there were problems with the system without it changing my perspective on my own life.  [/quote]

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