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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does this thread feel like sour grapes for those who can not afford to attend the Ivy they are qualified to attend?
Ivy level schools will not ever hurt for students of the highest caliber. There is way more qualified applicants than seats at those schools. If your child can not attend such a highly rated school that is fine and your child will do well wherever they attend but the T30 schools will still have an overabundance of the top qualified students to choose from. Parents have always looked at their children with bias thinking they are more unique than they really are.[/quote]

You’re close but missing an important nuance. This is another example of DCUM downward mobility sour grapes.

I grew up middle class in flyover country. I was at the top of my HS class and I didn’t know anyone who even applied to an Ivy School. And I am 100% sure no one attended one in any of the graduation classes I was around for. It just wasn’t on anyone’s radar, because of the expense relative to State Flagship U. Even if they would have qualified for aid, it was just out of reach.

Now OP clearly didn’t grow up in a community like that. Where she’s from, the best kids applied to the best schools and, if they got in, attended. The sour grapes stems from the fact she cannot give her kids that which she had growing up. It’s a very difficult thing to accept. [/quote]

It is hard to accept. But also, consider that there are lots of employers who place a lot of emphasis on the Top schools. You see it all the time discussed on here. So, people want their kids to have those opportunities. And maybe UMCP is growing in equality to HYP, etc. but lbh it's just not there yet for a lot of people. So pricing them out of those opportunities is already tracking them in their careers in a lot of instances.

That resentment is understandable (and before you sling some accusation at me/my kid, my DC is not in this process yet). [/quote]

I’m not going to sling anything at you because everything you say is completely true! I never had access to those top employers out of college, because my parents couldn’t (or wouldn’t) afford to send me to the kind of school I needed to go to for that to happen. So of course I have known my whole life that the process was never meritocratic, and that kids from the right families got to go to the right schools and then get the right jobs.

My only point is that this is news to some DCUMers, because they had access to all that, and credited their merit rather than the lucky circumstances of their birth. [/quote]

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