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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s bizarre to me. I have an 8th grader. No way are they going to any of these. Nothing good can come of them.[/quote]

Those parents who host underage drinking parties are trying to be cool and living vicariously through their children; those parents who let their children drink have a wide range of motivations, ranging from the reasonable (learning to manage alcohol responsibly while under supervision; thinking it’s stupid for drinking to be illegal for 18 year kids) to just being kind of checked out or being kind of free spirits.  I don’t judge that.  My own view is that it is impossible to prevent teen sex or drinking without extremely draconian and likely counterproductive surveillance and restrictions; that strongly articulated and well-reasoned disapproval of these behaviors is the best chance to avoid them; and that you sort of owe it to your kids to make them sneak around for that sort of thing because it reduces the risk (because it’s harder you get less of it) and it’s more fun for them that way anyway, so win-win.  It’s less fun for your kids to do shots at your breakfast bar while you approvingly not as compared to their having to surreptitiously raid your liquor cabinet while refilling the bottle with a little water to cover their tracks.  Drinking is ultimately kind of boring; scheming and breaking the rules is the actual fun part.[/quote]

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