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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my mother died, I was the only one of all the cousins in my mother's family who no longer had a mom. After my father died I was the only cousin on both sides of the family who had lost both parents. All my cousins in all the family still had both parents. I felt like the odd one out.

Hie thee to therapy today, not tomorrow!

These comments give the impression that your resentment is also rooted in not having siblings and feeling lonely compared to other, in your view, more fortunate coevals. The jealousy that suffuses this and your previous thread makes me feel sad for you. It is piercing.

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OP here. I'm not sure if it's 'resentment' at not having siblings. I had a great childhood and great parents, and I managed fine without siblings. I never 'missed' siblings. As a child and a teenager I always had friends so I wasn't feeling lonely then.

It's just that being an only child and trying to take care of a parent whose health is in decline from afar for 3 years is hard (we lived 6 hours away). And when my remaining parent died (my father), yes I felt lonely.

I don't think my cousins can imagine their life without parents, all of my cousins - except 1 - still have both parents.
 
Any resentment I felt was not so much because my cousins still had two living parents but the fact that I got zero emotional support from cousins after my remaining parent died. No one got in touch afterwards, no one ever asked how I was doing. Aunts and uncles didn't ask either. They came to the funeral and that was that.

I try and maintain a good relationship with my aunts, uncles and cousins from afar but it's not the same.

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