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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel similarly to your DH, except I don't have a pension. I want to retire very early and pursue my hobbies, while still splitting the domestic responsibilities. I'm trying to convince my DH that I should deserve to retire after years of pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding while working full-time. I also informed him early on while we were dating that I wanted to retire early on a very frugal budget.

His moodiness is a problem for sure, but not wanting to work seems normal to me.[/quote]

Nobody [i]wants[/i] to work.  But willingness to do nothing while your partner drowns trying to do everything is down to lack of character.  It's not just moodiness, after 5 years of this he's a leech.[/quote]
+1 This is part of the issue IMO if one person retires while the other is working, and the retiree has no serious plan/hobby.

I also find the lack of involvement in childcare, housechores, cooking a serious issue.  If you have kids, and you no longer work, but your partner still does, the retired person should be taking on most of the home chores.

OP is basically a single parent whose partner is a loser and mooching off of her.

Think of the reverse: if a woman was a sahm but she didn't cook, clean, take of care of kids, was moody all day, and the DH who works FT and had to do all this, how would the man feel? Probably awful.

Retiring early when you have kids doesn't mean you do nothing at home.[/quote]

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