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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find this thread so positive and encouraging. Many threads on this topic end with posters claiming they would never go back because their DH is so rich. [/quote]

A SAHP who returns to work after kids are in school = they still want to use their brain. Those who just continue at home = permanently lazy. Barring things that really suck up time like SN kids, eldercare, health issues.[/quote]

That’s a really ugly comment. I work FT, never SAH, and I don’t think that my friends who SAH are permanently lazy.

Also, maybe it’s true about the money. I make $200k and my DH makes more than that each month. My income adds almost nothing to our finances since we also have to outsource stuff that I could do if I SAH. I do feel like wanting to keep working is something I do for myself, and maybe a bit for our kids, since it’s not really a financial benefit. And while I get how privileged I am to be in this position, it is my reality. [/quote]

I posted previously that I would like to return to work. DH earns $2-3m. I could get a job that pays $100-200k but it doesn’t seem worth it. I don’t work now and it is hard enough juggling my three children. To earn $2m+, DH has to work and while he is very helpful when he is home, I could never actually rely on him to pick up or drive kids. I would always be the default. That was our problem when I was working with 2 kids. He earned less than $1m back then and I earned $150k at a very flexible job. Even though it was flexible, it was still difficult juggling 2 kids and back then, only one kid did sports 1-2x per week. Now I have 3 kids and each kid has sports 3-6x per week EACH. [/quote]

I’m in a similar position and totally understand not going back to work.

But what do you think you’ll do when the kids are grown? Just curious. For me I’d love to work in some capacity very part time and increase my hours as my kids get older. It’s not about the money since 100K wouldn’t mean much, but I worry about feeling empty when my kids leave for college.[/quote]

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