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[quote=Anonymous]I got married 2 months after turning 25, the summer after graduating from law school (a week after the Bar, which was a terrible idea).   I had a scholarship and loans to pay for law school, but I’m not sure how that is different than parents supporting point was, I wasn’t self supporting at the time.  My parent paid for medical and car insurance until I married. I started my first job as an Associate a month later.

I was engaged for 18 months, because I believe in a marriage you have to be willing to put the other persons needs first sometimes, and ai was not willing to do that until I had a degree.

Will celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary this summer. 2 beautiful kids in good colleges with solid lane for the future.

I was ready, and I have never felt I got married too soon. In fact, I wish I had eloped a year earlier for financial reasons.  BUT, my parents had a miserable marriage and an ugly divorce.  I knew I wanted kind, caring, stable and willing to be a 50% parent and support my career as much as I supported his. We had had these discussions about roles in the home, religion, children, money etc.  And he is a software engineer who never did grad school, so he had been adulting for 4 years when we married.

Given how long it takes to, say, get an MD, a PhD or even a JD, I think it’s more about emotional maturity than complete financial independence. My own DD’s 529 is funded through a Masters degree. She’s mature, makes well thought out decisions and has a good head on her shoulders. I would have no problem with her marrying at 25 and continuing to use her 529. I’d also keep her on our health insurance until 26 because I have good federal coverage, it doesn’t cost extra once I’ve covered DH to cover the kids, and he has a medical issue that can be expensive. This is assuming I don’t see huge red flags. [/quote]

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