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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are right that this family is dysfunctional.  One sibling is trying to take money from her siblings to keep what she feels she is owed.  The other siblings are trying to keep what little was left to them in the name of "fairness".  These people need to hash it all out honestly.  DD1 wants to be able to keep the house.  Why doesn't she just say that?  Something along the liens of "I've been living here with mom for 10 years and taking care of her for the last 2.  I can sell this house to pay the debts, but I would really prefer to not have to move.  How can we come to some sort of agreement that keeps me living here?"  Siblings can either come to an agreement or they can say "Sorry sis, you knew this was coming.  Sell the house."

In any case DD1 really needs to talk to an attorney to figure this out and see what her options are.  [/quote]

But...didn't DD1 forgo employment in order to care for the mother? Basically DS2 got his money in real time and DD1 was going to get her money in the future. Confident that DS2 doesn't see it that way, but that would be the outcome if all this were put into a spreadsheet.

I can't remember DD2's circumstances, but if she didn't really contribute to the care then that's the breaks.

DH should let go of his feelings about getting money to cover trip expenses, etc. Yeah, it sucks, but it is what it is. The important thing here is that he is modeling behavior for his children, especially how they will treat each other and him and his wife going forward. I learned this from my parents and our kids then saw that with how we treat(ed) our parents and siblings in these final years. [/quote]

No, this is ridiculous. Stop trying to guilt OP into giving the SIL money. [/quote]

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