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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should definitely date with marriage in mind (if thats what you want) for sure once you are in your 20s. by 25 you should not date anyone more than 6 months if you don't see it doing somewhere. Never date more than 1.5 years post age 25 if there haven't been some discussions on long term plans.
Do NOT move in with anyone until you have both agreed that you are on the same time frame and plans for long term.
and remember, you can't change him; drama is exhausting in a marraige; if he can't manage money you will grow to resent him and you will be the only adult in the marriage; if you want a committment and he doesn;t, cut it loose.  He will get married but he doesn't want to marry YOU.  stop trying to convince him[/quote]

As much as I don't want to say this is smart advice - some of it is. Esp the part about cutting someone loose if you're not getting what you want. Every relationship has pushes and pulls, and compromises and fights. But underlying it has to be that you are on the same page about what this relationship means to the both of you.

I don't think it's just that you dump someone if within 6 months you don't see yourselves getting married - but if after 6 months you don't feel that you are in the sort of relationship you want to be in (committed or not, headed toward marriage or not, whatever matters to you) then get out and start again. Doesn't matter if you love them, doesn't matter if you're heartbroken to leave. Save yourself years of heartbreak by knowing that relationships are as much about infrastructure - where you live, how often you see each other, etc etc - as they are about liking each other.[/quote]

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