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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He will not engage 2 year old when it comes to occupying her with activities. He all of a sudden has something to do. He would rather cook,  walk the dog or invoice a client than play with our little one. He is fine watching her locked inside a high chair or other contraption. But playing is not his thing, as if he is too grown to play. Im the only one who plays outside with her. I hit balls, push her on toys, blow bubbles, write with chalk etc… My eye rolls are getting longer each day he doesn’t play.  I’ve mentioned this to him before but things aren’t changing. I’m the one that teaches her everything initially but he will reinforce things with her once she has shown she knows something and somehow he is praised for it. Not sure what I’m asking. Just venting.

Has anyone had a spouse not play but eventually give in. Im a SAHM too.[/quote]

Have them do a Gymboree or Music Together class so they get that time w/o distractions and with modeling by other dads. Plus you get a break. That way he will have ideas as to how to engage her out of class, too. [/quote]
Taking your kid to a class &lt;&gt; engaging with your kid.

I find OP's story incredibly sad.

My DH remembers how his dad never really engaged with him.  They never had a close relationship, and when his father died a few years ago, he lamented how he wasn't that good of a dad, though of course, he was sad.  He was determined to be the opposite kind of dad.

DH likes model trains, and when DS was little, they used to build train tracks together because DH also enjoyed it. But with DD, neither he nor I enjoyed playing with dolls or dressup.  But we found other ways to engage with DD.

I'm a PP who stated that neither of us are kiddie people. We don't enjoy &quot;playing&quot; with our kids, but we always found some way to engage with them.   I hate board games, but I can't tell you how many times I played Candyland with my kids.  Didn't enjoy the game, but I love my children, and I loved talking to them and seeing them figure things out.

We also engaged our kids by going on walks, and chatting on the walks. Talk about what they see.

One of the best ways to engage is to read them stories. We *always* took turn reading to DD and chatting with her. Sound out words.

If your DCs draw a picture, even just a scribble on a piece of paper, you can comment on the picture and ask your DC questions about it. Just talk to them .

They say that 0-2 is when the brain is like a sponge, so reading and talking to them is super important.   Your DH doesn't have to &quot;play&quot; with the kids, but he should be able to &quot;talk&quot; to them.

Does he not even want to talk with his own kids?  Why did he even bother having kids?[/quote]

+1 My DH always talks about how his dad never played with him either. As DH got older he got more and more distanced from his dad to the point where they barely talk. DH isn't even sad about it because he never felt close to his dad anyways, so what was there to lose? [/quote]

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