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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In many parts of Asia, grandparents do the bulk of daytime childcare, so both parents are free to work at demanding jobs. And with loose employment regulations, boy, are those jobs rough.[/quote]

Don’t the grandparents have jobs? If they’re old enough to be fully retired, I would think they’d be too old to be fully Abe to run around with a young child all day in the way a child needs.

Seems cheap and a way to take advantage of the elderly when they should be relaxing after decades of hard work 
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I'm the PP who posted about grandparents doing childcare in Asia. The retirement age in China is between 50 and 60, so it wouldn't be too old to run around with a child, especially if there are 2 grandparents babysitting at the same time. It's also a different culture, so family members there are expected to make huge uncompensated sacrifices for each other, for better or for worse.[/quote]

Chinese person here - this may sound great but I have friends whose parents flew over from China to take care of their baby for months to a year. It may sound great but can also be a headache given the cultural/parenting style differences. I've heard stories of grandparents being super against letting the baby cry, doing any kind of sleep training, putting them on a schedule, etc. It's great that it's free but at least if you have a nanny you can tell them what to do. [/quote]

I mean, that’s obvious isn’t it? There is no free lunch. They want the grandparents to help out for free, but they don’t want the grandparents to have any opinions on child rearing. People just want someone to do all the hard work for no pay and do whatever is told to them without any questions. It doesn’t make any sense. It’s your kid but you’re using them for free childcare. And everyone who is a parent knows how hard watching a baby all day long is. It’s not fun. It’s hard work, and is like a full time job. Also these grandparents are not professional childcare workers. So they put the kids in front of the TV all day and the parents gets mad because the old people don’t have energy or creativity to engage with young kids. The idea that you can get free childcare from grandparents and also control everything they do and expect them to shut their mouths is ridiculous. I’ve seen a ton of people do it.

There is “price” for free childcare.

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