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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depends on who.  Different women want different things.  Did you see the movie Notes on a Scandal and wonder how a pretty upper-class woman with a loving family could end up giving a 16-yo blowjobs in the classroom?  The character Cate Blanchett portrayed felt invisible.  She missed being admired by someone under the age of fifty.  She wanted to be f'd by someone who really wanted to f her.  The boy could see that so he told her what he knew she wanted to hear.  Many women want to hear that they are irresistibly bewitching but not all. [b] Find out what your prospective fling wants to hear by listening to her jokes. [/b] [/quote]

This is interesting to me.  I would never broadcast what I want to hear in a joke.  It feels like fishy for a compliment and little too needy.  In fairness, I likely did this when I was much younger.[/quote]

I fear you have misunderstood me.  Analyzing jokes is an important component of an overall personality assessment.  People often reveal their niggling insecurities and big concerns in jokes without even being aware that they are doing so.  For example, a middle-aged woman deflecting a compliment with a self-deprecating joke indicates her unconscious desire to be reassured that she [i]is[/i] still attractive.  The would-be seducer should find a woman's vanity point, another key to her personality.  Does she change her jewelry often?  Keep nicely manicured nails?  Wear long blond curls although she's in her sixties?  Have plenty of plants in her office or ethnic pottery or literary journals?  Does she talk about the trips she's taken or planning?  Her participation in a sport or activity?

You as the seducer must tap into her self-image.  Does she pride herself on being clever, adventurous, nurturing, high-maintenance, intellectual or tough?  If her spouse is not doing his job of reinforcing her self-image in a way that fulfills her then you have a prime opportunity.  An innocent conversation about what she and her family did this weekend should somehow lead to "How did you meet your husband?"  The look on her face -- be it annoyed, neutral, brusque, dreamy, nostalgic, regretful or simply joyful -- when she answers will speak volumes about the state of their relationship and your chances of winning her over.[/quote]

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