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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you're being a little petty and childish. I doubt there was any ill-intention on her part, sometimes people just get very busy with their lives and need to prioritize. In times like this unless you're a very good friend who has been with her through thick and thin, you don't get top billing on her to do list. It is what it is. [/quote]

Uh, you are the one being childish, actually.

And I say this as someone who has ghosted someone due to being overwhelmed with other stuff going on in my life and that friendship not making the cut. But I can fully admit now that the way I handled it was childish. I should have reached out and said "Hey, I am going through a lot right now and just don't have the bandwidth for socializing with anyone except maybe my family and a couple very old friends. I wanted to let you know I think you're terrific and me dropping off here has nothing to do with you, and you didn't do anything wrong. I just need to focus on myself right now."

The language you are using indicates that ghosting someone is like punishment for not being as old or dedicated of a friend (no one should be punished for that) and the line 'you don't get top billing on her to-do list" is so gross I don't even want to get into it.

There is room in a situation like this for everyone to be human and get what they need. You don't need to put down OP for having hurt feelings from a situation that is hurtful. It doesn't mean it's intentional or vicious, but it is hurtful and the other woman could have handled it better.

Expecting people to have no feelings about it when you treat them badly is not reasonable.[/quote]

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