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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, do you really really want 50/50 custody of a teenager? What would your living situation be like? How would it work logistically, with your kids too-- not just now but as they grow older and have more complicated schedules. Do you want to divide your parenting attention in this way? Do you feel you can be patient and loving despite a lot more contact with her mom, and despite having to manage her ADHD and its behavioral and academic implications. An ADHD teen can be a really difficult parenting road. Really think about this. Be careful what you wish for.[/quote]

OP here. I get it. It won't be easy. But, no one ever said parenting would be easy, and as parents, you have to sacrifice what you want for what's best for the child. If the child is suffering in the current state, DH would do anything to assist. Again, this does not mean take child from mom or put down mom, but work together more efficiently to help the child. Mom just doesn't want to do anything (says all of the right things but doesn't execute).[/quote]

It sounds like the mom has ADHD and more kids than she can handle, and is in an abusive marriage. I'm sorry that makes your DH sad. That must be really hard for your DH. Do you have a plan other than wishing the mom would change?[/quote]

There is absolutely nothing OP or her husband can do to fix what is going on in Mom's home.  If your child isn't thriving and not living with you and there is nothing you can do about it, of course you'd be upset.  [/quote]

Well yes, but the OP started with the DH being sad that he didn't get his daughter for a week. Not that there's anything wrong with being sad about that. But "I'm sad that my daughter is being inadequately parented and lives in a toxic household and doesn't get time with me" is different from "I didn't get my week and I am sad". See how one is focused on the DH's feelings and one is focused on the actual underlying problem?[/quote]

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