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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]	I’ll ask it, what exactly is his work and family responsibilities that he needs to *always* hop to it whenever he gets an email or text?  Are you sure he’s single and that his work is legitimate? This sounds very odd if it’s to the point that you are eating in silence while he types away on his phone. 
Having said that, it’s also strange that he’s got *both* family and work doing this at the same time.  My dad was in a situation kind of like this when I was a baby, and then again when I was about 12, the first was family, the second was work.  Still, they happened years apart, everybody knew what was going on, it wasn’t a vague “be patient with me” dramafest.. and both events ended well before six months. When is this stress going to end?   
In my dad’s situations, they were concrete, finite and transparent. this dude wants to have you around, you are referring to what you do as “dates”, he needs to tell you what’s going on, or you need to end it.  I’m already skeptical of the work *and* family, yet he still had time to find a woman and call it a romantic relationship? You don’t deserve this, op.

To the poster who said op had better put up with it because nobody will show her grace when she is struggling, that’s nonsense.  It actually comes across as a bit bullying, “do what he wants or you’ll be alone at your most vulnurable”..  Why would you suggest such a thing? All that will likely happen is op will put up with this guy, text him after say a car accident and he “won’t see the text” or “didn’t have service” or “thought he hit send”, in other words, he won’t be there for op. That’s how people like this dude roll. Giving people who act weird grace only means you get a bad boyfriend, a bad employee, a bad friend, and when you tell someone about what’s going on, you get people telling you to “be understanding” or “give grace” where frankly, none is deserved. Even my dad has said “I’m real grateful for the people who stuck around.. and I also understand those who didn’t, they weren’t mean, they just couldn’t or didn’t want to deal with the situations.. which is their right”.
  Nobody has to put up with behavior from another person that they aren’t comfortable with, and the reason doesn’t much matter.  As a side note, I’ve only heard the “People deal with stress differently” in the context of “put up with whatever bad behavior they dish out.. because they’re stressed, grieving, worried.. whatever it is. In some cases you find out that these badly behaving people are people you’d prefer not to associate with, into drugs or drinking, married when they present as single, say they work in a profession when they really do not.  In extreme cases, you end up on the news, think Chris Watts girlfriend or Scott Peterson’s girlfriend, both of which who claim to believe what their respective boyfriends were saying.  I even think that Scott Peterson along with some of Amber’s friends told her to “be understanding,, he’s grieving” well before Laci died. Nobody told Amber “He’s single, he wants to date you, you let him pick up your kid from school on your second date, why doesn’t he spend Christmas with you guys”. If they had, she might have started to wonder just what Scott was doing when he was “traveling”.. again weeks before anything bad happened to Laci.  Amazing with all the true crime podcasts out there, people still give someone acting strangely the benefit of the doubt.  
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Be more concise, bruh.[/quote]

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