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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op again...I just wanted to say I'm not the one(s) who keeps posting that people who come to any event, large or small, should feel obligated in any way to host anything or bring something to what we host.  I swear all I want is your company (otherwise I wouldn't be getting in touch), and I can't possibly the the only person in DC who feels that way.  As far as I'm concerned a real friendship shouldn't carry any "obligations"...Just saying yes to getting together is fine with me - as long as that yes is a genuine wish to share time with me/us and not a yes because you don't want to hurt my feelings or have some other agenda!  :-) :-)[/quote]

What most hosts seem to be pointing out is that, if there is a "genuine wish to share time with...", there are a million things that people who don't like to host can do, not to "reciprocate" but simply to continue the fun and "share time with..."

Not doing so merely indicates lack of interest and, for the most part, lazy excuses.
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OP again.  You are entitled to your opinion.  However it's vastly different than mine.  I started this post to check the other side  of the story, and nothing that has been posted has changed my mind from "people have their personal reasons for not hosting, but it doesn't mean that they don't value my friendship".

Case in point...I called up a friend to see if they wanted to get together this weekwnd.  They had plans, but suggested next weekend.  Next weekend we have plqns.  We spent a while going back and forth until we found a date that worked for both of us...in August.  It's still frickin' MAY!  I know there were some weekend where we *could* have gotten together, but there was some family or work function that I know would have wiped us out so I said no.  I would hope my friend did the same.  Now...if I didn't talk to her, who's to say that with one thing and another it would not have been easily 6 weeks before they were able to take a breath and get the energy to call us?  Should I have spent all that time.wondering why they didn't ask us to go to dinner with them?  Hell no!!!!  I don't have that kind of time or energy.  Should they feel bad that this was the second time I called to get together that would have been me hosting and make room in their shedule because they felt like they "owed me".  Hell no!  I would hope they would know that's not the purpose of my call.

Anyway, hosted or hoster...your friends should be your friends  If something bugs you that much, speak up.  If youbare.uncomfortable saying something, mwybe you should check yourself before you blame others.   [/quote]

Dear OP,

My most sincere appreciation for kindly allowing me to have my own opinion. In the thread that you seem to own, no less. Thank you also very much for facilitating my reading comprehension by repeating the same point 3 times. If you wouldn't mind repeating it a fourth time, that would really help me assimilate the very nuanced point you are trying to communicate to the slow learners here at DCUM.

The only thing, if I may darebto say so, you might consider doing in the future so better accommodate the guests in the thread you kindly host, is not to put in other's mouths things that they never said or even implied. Fuzzy logic doesn't seem to clarify things, but to add to the mess.

Your truly,

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