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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I emailed her H. That was pretty satisfying. She was part of a friends group and cutting them off was also satisfying because they tried to pretend to “my friend” to get information for her. I stayed friends with the ones that just didn’t get involved. The ones I cut off are still a little bitter.

I actually confronted another one because she was single. She also wrote me a letter begging me to be friends and she’d promise not to sleep with my h anymore. I told her about the married one, that was fun. She told me I was a bad wife, lol. I ran into her dad and said, “your daughter dates married men btw, I think she needs therapy”. He later made her get therapy do I feel I did the world a favor

I am not afraid of conflict so it was fine for me but I think it’s bad if you avoid conflict or that brings you anxiety.

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Are you still married to this cheater? I really love these stories and if he cheats again I hope you can do something similar to the next OW. [/quote]

Lol no. But we are still close.

I don’t take cheating personally because it’s just a flaw in the cheater.

I see these women as just flawed. My best friend was an OW, so I saw her just get used and abused. I feel bad for anyone who lets themselves get used like this..   but I’m also not walking away quietly. Lol.[/quote]
Aren't most OWs already married? Then the cheaters are getting exactly what they came for. I don't understand this misogynistic narrative that the female in the relationship is always getting "used up" and "thrown out". I mean, they want sex and excitement and attention and they are getting it. 90% of them don't want to blow up their families either.

Your problem is with your spouse. It only makes you look crazy to go after the other person, though it's understandable to hate them with the fire of a thousand suns.[/quote]

My best friend wanted to get married to him. Yes she was married to a great guy. Her work found out, she was fired. He continued to use her until finally she realized it and got the therapy.

Both my H’s affairs expected to marry him. I think if it’s just for fun, just walk away quietly when it’s over.[/quote]

Also, I don’t hate them at all. Hate is a useless emotion. [/quote]

I think a lot of OW make the mistake/miscalculation that he wouldn’t do something so transgressive unless he really loved her, and that therefore they have a future. So she knows it’s wrong, she just thinks he’s breaking rules for her. That’s why they’re so devastated when they realize it’s something else.[/quote]

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