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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Go to the admitted students day at both schools with an open mind. How far apart in rankings are we talking? My DC is in at a private school ranked around 40 (well known in major), but really prefers a public school admitted to that ranks around 120. I feel pretty strongly DC should go with the higher ranked school. DC likes both schools and likes the social scene, football games, etc. at the lower ranked school. [/quote]

Please let your DC pick themselves!  Don't keep mentioning the "rankings"  It is their college experience and anyone who can get admitted to ~#40 is smart and motivated and will do well anywhere they go.  But they will do best where they are happiest.  Imagine if you force them to pick ~#40 and they are miserable--they will blame you forever and that would not be the type of relationship I'd want with my kid[/quote]

But did you read the part where I said DC preferred the lower ranked school because of the football games, social scene, etc at a big state school? You think this is a valid reason to prefer one school over another when they are so vastly apart on the rankings?[/quote]

yes, I did read that.  So your smart kid wants a less stressful environment and wants to enjoy college and experience the "big state school" sports environment and social scene.  That appears where they will be happiest.  Maybe they are sick of you pushing them to the brink for the last 4-8 years.  Perhaps they only applied to #40 because you pushed them to and they never really wanted to attend there or liked that school.  
IMO, I'd rather my kid do well in school and be happy than attend a higher ranked school. I don't want to be the reason my kid is miserable or worse, commits suicide due to me micromanaging them and stressing them out. 
I don't get caught up in the rankings.  our kids are under a lot of pressure and I would want my kid to succeed in life, and that includes being happy, not me having bragging rights that they attended a "top ranked university"

So I'll say it again, if you force your kid to attend what you view as the best choice and they are miserable, they will blame you and your relationship will forever be changed.  It will be difficult to repair.  Sure your kid might graduate from #40, but they may not be happy, may not have done as well academically as they would have at their choice and they might distance themselves from you once out of college and on their own financially, as they might be sick of you forcing them to do what you want.  If that's what you want for your kid, sure push them to go where you think is best.  [/quote]

In addition there is very little practical difference between -#40 and -#120. #299?  Maybe.[/quote]

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