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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two summers ago DH and I decided to rent a beach house for 2 weeks in August. At the end of the trip we invited DH’s parents to come for a weekend. Overall it was a nice time. Last summer we rented the same house and in addition to DH’s parents coming, they pretty much invited his sister/BIL and their kids and everyone went from staying for a weekend to 5/6 days. It was fine, but the small house was pretty chaotic and instead of my kids having a bedroom they had to stay in the room with DH and me so his parents could have one room and his sister and her family had the other. No one offered to chip in for the most part so not only did we pay for the beach house, but we paid for most of the food too.

We were planning to rent a house again this summer and MIL already made a comment about how much fun everyone had and they can’t wait to come back. I suggested that we find a bigger house and all split it, which was pretty much met with blank stares. They pretty much just want us to foot the bill for their summer vacation.

I want to disinvite them, although let’s be clear that we have not invited them, but DH thinks that will not go over well. Can we tell them that if they want to come they need to contribute without it becoming a “thing”? I don’t see why others can’t chip in so we can get a more comfortable house. Why should we pay for the whole thing and be crammed in one bedroom, feeding everyone, etc? What would you do?[/quote]

That is terrible, op!  They are moochers.  I would either not go on that beach vacation and just tell them you made other plans ( and then do it) like we have always wanted to take the kids to...X

Or just say that you can't afford to give everyone a vacation so you are booking a house that will just fit your family.  If they want to come they have to rent their own place. Yes you will get pushback but, you must remain strong. So , sorry our budget doesn't allow this and there is no room in the house.   The contract says we can only have our family!

Do it now before they start to make plans.[/quote]

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