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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He was doing great so assumed he didn't need his meds and went off them. Now he's a mess because .... he needs his meds. Tale as old as time. He'll probably die. That's how these things go. [/quote]
  
I’d hate to see that happen.  DD really adores this kid and I feel terribly for him.  Really rough upbringing. DD doesn’t seem to understand she cannot fix this.  [/quote]

She needs to have it drummed into her head that it is not her place to fix or save people. Her wanting to help is a great trait - and she should use it in appropriate ways, like volunteering to teach adults to read or at a dog shelter or nursing home or something. This is over her head, above her qualifications, and even professionals can't convince people to stay on their meds. REALLY drive it home with her. [/quote]
I agree with this, but I think the way to do it is to say what SHE is doing is selfish.  The reason is, she's not qualified, but likes the feeling of being needed so much that she is enabling him--holding him up just enough--to not get the help he needs.

I know that sounds harsh to say to your sweet DD, but if put this way, it can prick the bubble in the savior complex.  Seeing the flip side (or dark side) of the coin around her own behavior might help her detach.[/quote]

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