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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there someone at your DD’s college you can reach out to and raise concerns? Ideally even order him to stop contacting her, but at least monitor the situation? 
Also can you distract her? Take her on a trip maybe? She needs to find other ways to feel important and loved besides helping all sorts of problematic people [/quote]

I don’t even now who I contacted.  She’s an adult.  If I crossed that boundary she’d probably be incredibly angry with me and feel betrayed. [/quote]

If there is a counselor there might be a way to keep it anonymous
Maybe they can keep an eye on the guy and sort of relieve her of the duty
But it does sound strange, young people are supposed to be somewhat selfish - she should be too
I would think really hard about how she can be redirected to other things like maybe dating?[/quote]

She’s had the same girlfriend for a few years.  They attend different Universities (girlfriend is states away).  They both seem to really love each other but I do imagine they’ll probably end things sooner or later just due to distance and different life goals.  So she’s not dating at the moment. [/quote]

Doesn’t have to be dating; just something more “selfish” than trying to save a guy who honestly sounds like an impossible case to solve so to speak 
She is getting a large share of her self worth from being a savior
This is what needs to change 
I am like that to an extent, and ended up in a bad marriage 
That was even despite my parents telling me to stay away from problematic and difficult people
You are right that it’s something that you inherit or learn from your parents 
Your DD needs therapy about her need to be a savior [/quote]

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