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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what I found was that I don't feel like I have to be "on" with my kids, and thus, they don't sap energy. [/quote]

This is true for me too. Although kids do tire me out to some degree and I do need some alone time. Overall - kids are in the category of that one trusted person that its fine to just be with and don't sap my energy like other social interactions with people I don't feel close to.[/quote]

I agree with both of these BUT will note that while I don't feel like I need to be "on" for my kid, I do have a kid who demands a pretty high level of attention and engagement, and that is hard as an introvert. I love her to bits and am willing to step up to give her what she needs, but one reason we stopped at one kid is that if our second kid was as demanding, it would be miserable for me. With one, I can pour all my energy into engaging with her, but then she goes to school or to bed or DH and I can trade off time with her. If I had two kids like this, I think I'd burn out fast because there are days when she goes to bed and I am just absolutely exhausted at 8pm and can barely move or talk because I'm so tapped out. I actually rearranged my work schedule so that I work from 6-7am, and then don't log back on until 10am, because I found that trying to dive into work right after doing the morning routine with DD was too hard -- I needed a buffer to relax and recharge before I could be productive, because she talks nonstop from the moment she wakes up until she disappears into the entrance to her school, and it's a lot.

But as she's gotten older, I can also tell her (in a kind way that doesn't blame her for my own mental state) when I need some distance or a chance to be alone, and she can accept it. Also, there's a good chance she has ADHD (before anyone jumps in to tell me, trust me, I know) and now that she's old enough that we could probably start treating, I think that might help too.

But yeah, I couldn't have two kids like this.[/quote]

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