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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This kind of thing definitely happens if you are in the zone during a busy period at work. If it slips in the near term, you'll forget and won't address it until you can catch your breath because you are inundated with other things.[/quote]

And the times she takes days to respond but it’s not because of work? Or what about the weekends when she isn’t working?[/quote]

Look, some people are just bad at texting. Multiple people here have told you why that might be the case. I don’t think it makes someone a bad person, but you seem committed to believing that. In that case, maybe just let this friend go. I am a person who sometimes responds belatedly and certainly don’t need my friends to be secretly judging me for it.[/quote]

THIS.

To the OP, if you place your personal idea of texting "requirements" ahead of your history with this friend, then you really aren't her friend.

You sound more invested in feeling hurt and insulted than in her as your friend. If my friend didn't respond for a long time I would wonder if she was OK, or if work was tough (your friend's actual case!), or if I had missed a text or whatever. The first thought would [i]not[/i] be that she was rude or ignoring me. If you needed a response by a certain deadline for this trip planning, well, you can phone her. Actual phone calls are still a thing, as your friend clearly knows. She did the right thing to phone you and apologize and explain. [/quote]

I have a feeling it’s not the first time and that’s why Op is upset. I know that many of us want to give reasons and hide behind our lack of responding but the truth is that we make time for who and for what we want. Every now and then okay…but most of us tend to make it a pattern to not respond because we are “too busyl[/quote]

“We make time for who and what we want” - oh goodness. There have been times when I was absolutely underwater and did not WANT to be neglecting or not responding to friends, but what I had to make time for was much-needed home repairs and my SN kid and trying to stay afloat at work and supporting an ill family member and trying to stay on top of the rest of life in general. And sometimes these periods can last for months. I’m sincere when I say to my friends “I’m sorry for not texting you back and I wish I could have been more in touch lately but I just don’t have the bandwidth.” And if people don’t believe that, then I don’t need them in my life. [/quote]

I’m pp. I see that. I’m really speaking to people who never make time and usually those people don’t even apologize or give reasons. They just throw out the whole “ I don’t need needy people on my life phrase” to excuse their lack of involvement. Also as your friend I would want you to open up while you are struggling. Maybe I could drop off a meal, help in some way or encourage. No man is an island. This is what friends are for. Associates…those are the people that don’t have any idea what’s going on in my life. [/quote]

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