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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I notice that articles like these always frame the issue as some deficiency or failing with men, whereas when a demographic trend is unfavorable for women it is usually externalized, attributed to some outside force or...blamed on men again.

We need to start being honest about how held-preferences, individual action and societal forces are combining to foment these trends.

It's easy to just resort to bludgeoning men, but I don't think it's the answer long term.[/quote]

I [u]do [/u]think the answer is with men. My dh was raised by his parents to be a full partner: work, cook, clean, love children, remember holidays. So many men just weren't. They basically think all they need to do is get a job. Showing up doesn't count anymore for men. Women do it all and men need to step up. I'm raising my sons to do better.

I have both sons and daughters and I also think schools play a role. They are geared towards girls who sit better and don't need as much activity.[/quote]

I'm all for men pulling their weight, but I don't think this is the real source of the disparity. In high school and college, girls and women were *always* dating the older guys. It was almost never the reverse. At that age, it's not because the dudes are "full partners." It's because they have higher social status, more money, more confidence, maybe a better physical build. I hate the red pill stuff, but one of the nuggets of truth that they hook people with is that young women have a lot more options with respect to sex and relationships at that age than young men. And it's reflected in these statistics.

When women complain about power dynamics, they're usually looking at society as a whole where middle age and older men absolutely have startling advantages and privileges not enjoyed nearly as much by women; especially in the upper classes. But a lot of the real problems caused by men are caused specifically by younger men. That's who commits the lion's share of the violence and pack our jails. I don't know that there's any way to make them more attractive to women their own age, but society definitely has an interest in finding ways to engage them as productive, respected members of the community. [/quote]

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