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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m in a dead bedroom situation and am dying!  Any good or positive affair stories?
I’ve got enough of the negative, it’s deterred me for years.  I’m hanging on by a thread.[/quote]

Since you are in a dead bedroom, totally different rules apply. Just declare the marriage open. This is not an affair, this is a lifestyle choice (similar to how "sexless" is a lifestyle choice).
You are free to make this decision unilaterally, just as your spouse unilaterally decided to be sexless.[/quote]

NP. I think I recognize your style, or maybe it's the style used by all the pro-open-marriage posters here: "Just declare the marriage open."

No, no one can unilaterally declare a marriage is open. That is a mutual decision by both people in the marriage. By definition.

You'll whine, of course, that "The spouse declared the marriage sexless so I can declare it open!" Lack of sex doesn't introduce another person into the mix. An affair does. "Unilateral open marriage" is nonexistent and is a weak way to say "an affair."

Get off your lazy backside and either work at the marriage and find out why the spouse is not interested in sex (or in sex [i]with you[/i]), or work at effecting a divorce. Making up ridiculous labels doesn't help. Open marriage is a real thing for some people but it is not unilateral. Those of you just wanting an affair try to co-opt the term to paper over your infidelity to someone who is not in any open marriage--your spouse.
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Unless you are actually in a sexless marriage, why does the fact bother you that a sexless marriage is (effectively) an open marriage? Certainly this is much better for you than secret affairs or divorce, which are the only other 2 possibilities.[/quote]

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