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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - what responses!  I think asking 1-2 months is not unreasonable, given the massive adjustment we’ll be going through.  The rules apply across the board.  And for everyone saying “have a heart, let them come at 2-3 weeks” - a month is four weeks.  Is it really that big of a difference?

I’ve read several articles advocating waiting at least a month before allowing strangers around. I’m not interested in being immediately post-partum, bleeding, leaking milk/breastfeeding etc with my in-laws around.  At least not until I get the hang of it.  Is this really cruel, ridiculous, and selfish?  I just don’t get these responses.[/quote]

Then why are you here? You asked how to set this boundary WITHOUT CAUSING A RIFT. Sorry, but you can’t. The responses here are telling you that.

Go ahead and keep them away for 4-8 weeks. I don’t care and neither does anyone here. BUT don’t come and post that your ILs are upset, miffed, or bothered by this. [/quote]

I guess this begs the question why grandparents would think their wants should come before the wants of new parents.[/quote]

Because it's a boundary for no reason. I'd be pro OP if the parents were abusive. My cousin did this and it was too much. She had signs on her baby that she didn't allow anyone to touch him (a full term baby born in the summer before covid was a thing). Her mom pretty much lost her mind that she couldn't touch her grandchild for 6 months.

Also, are BOTH sets of parents being given this boundary or just inlaws? [/quote]

Everyone is being given this boundary.[/quote]

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