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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this thread shows clearly that for most people you understand minor things more clearly and understand your parent/forgive your parent when you become a parent, but things like abuse and neglect become almost retraumatizing because you are seeing your own child and imagining that happen to them.[/quote]

Yup. And also one takeaway is just that abuse and neglect stick with you forever. It's not something you get over. You can learn to deal with the impacts of it and you can develop healthy coping mechanisms. And then something can happen, like becoming a parent, and you have to do that again because you've discovered new impacts and need additional ways to deal with it.

I have no doubt that I will deal with this again when my kids are grown and move away, as well as when my own parents die. I've already dealt with several rounds of revisiting my childhood trauma when my siblings have gone through things that brought it all up (drug and alcohol addiction, divorce).

Childhood abuse and neglect: the gift that keeps on giving, and giving, and giving, and giving...[/quote]

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