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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We would stay with them if the accommodations were suitable, and the dates work. We’re never asked for our input on accommodations even though we’ve said this a number of times, though, so I read the “but we got a house with rooms for you” as sort of a fake-polite protest. I don’t mind that they don’t care for us to stay, it would be nice if they’d stop the show before I have to explain it to our kids, though.

[b]I am also realizing I may have to tell my in laws I consider one of the cousins potentially unsafe for being around my young children unsupervised (one of the reasons the accommodations are so problematic) because I really don’t want a family-wide referendum on SILs parenting.[/b][/quote]

OP this is a no go.  My ILs had the same situation, but I think they finally stopped inviting the other family (a distant friend) - whose child was prone to anger issues, and charged at my younger, smaller kid, trying to impale him with a pool cue.  You can't and should not force unhealthy relationships like that. The hotel will work just fine, if you attend, at all - and your DC will be safe. There is no discussion needed, especially if they don't have a modicum of common sense to intervene with this crap. Just no.

Do you want to go to the "vacation", at all? Vacation time is few and far between for most of us - and it is expensive. Our family does not have the luxury of an employer paying us for lost time, nor are we retired like the ILs.  All of this makes an enormous difference! So when we go on vacation, it is our planning, to locations that we like and choose, just our nuclear family, and our kids get to see their cousins, whom they have seen each summer and more,  while we are there. If the ILs wanted to see us, they live 20 minutes away, and can do that any time - but for show?  Another no. Even when the ILs did ask us our availability, they ignored it for 25+ years, so WTH would that matter now.

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