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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Yikes, sounds like the answer to why some parents are happy is because they invest a lot of time and energy at home. This sounds like a lot of pressure to put on parents compared to a generation ago, and this is on top of longer work hours and commutes. Is it any wonder that everyone is stressed out and has no time to build a real community? When I went to school (graduated 16 years ago), my parents were not involved except for providing an environment conducive to studying and some “fun” supplementing like museums, travel, and of course SAT prep books. I still did extremely well. I am now feeling stressed out that I will have to spend hours teaching my children at home to fill in the gaps from their school education. It will be stressful for me to take on a second job as private tutor, and stressful for the children because they will get very little break from academics. Even if I were to invest in a private tutor, it would give me a break but not the children.[/quote]

You are in Fairfax County. Yes, it is a lot of pressure to be in the rat race in this area.  If your kid is a high achiever, the "gaps" you fill are the ones that get your kid ahead.  Have to do a little bit of everything-- revamp your household schedule to prioritize things for your kids. If you don't want to be in that rat race, you can totally opt out. But I'll tell ya, once you hear that Larla is doing ballet and piano, and taekwondo and kumon, you're going to feel that you aren't doing enough for your kids if they aren't overscheduled like everyone else.

Yes it is stressful. Been there. And it doesn't really end when your kids get out of FCPS-- ha, go take a look at the college forum! [/quote]

This poster nailed it.  My daughter is now a surgeon.  She went through Haycock, Longfellow, and McLean HS.  She received a pretty solid education, but what pushed her to excel was a lot of parent help at home (writing help) and paid work with a tutor (mastering chem, calculus, etc).  It was exhausting and expensive.  The extra work wasn't necessary, but realize (in the classroom) that the squeaky wheels get the grease.  The kids who are struggling get the teachers' (extremely limited) time.  Average kids and above just float on by, maybe grasping the material, maybe not.  [/quote]

OP here. I am a cardiologist and could have chosen surgery. I didn’t need any parent or tutor help at home. My HS English teachers taught excellent writing skills and provided a lot of feedback on essays etc. My HS science and math teachers had plenty of time to pay attention to me. That’s exactly my point.[/quote]

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