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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Start with marriage counseling with your wife. Try to reconnect. Work at it. If you listen to hear and are open to changing things on your end, and her answer is still celibacy, tell her that you're not going to do that so she can make a choice. And if the answer is that you're opening up your marriage, you will have an easier and less risky time trying to meet someone. [/quote]
Would you honestly still be sexually attracted to someone that is 50 pounds heavier than you first met?[/quote]

Do you have any idea how much weight a “dad bod” adds to a college physique? Women are lucky to get away with only a 50lb increase in their partners size and no one feels bad for them or thinks it excuses cheating. Get over yourself. [/quote]
Can’t force attraction.[/quote]

Then leave.

Why stay and lie to the children? You don't want to crush them now but crush them later when they realize you are a toxic, shallow liar?

It's better to just be shallow and human to them. Don't add being a toxic liar to that. It's going to mess them up even more.

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The thing is many marriages survive though crisis period. These men who look for an affair in their 50s may end up not that interested in sex in their 60s and 70s, and just get by somehow. If he loves his wife and kids otherwise, why divorce and split assets over sex alone? [/quote]

How could he  love his wife otherwise and not be attracted to her because she gained 50 pounds? She is probably going to gain more as she ages.

And if she discovers the affair, it won't matter how much he loves her. He'd be a monster and the kids will take her side

An amicable divorce is better especially when you can afford it like OP can.[/quote]

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