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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with everyone saying the kid is happy and that is the point, so why do something else?

But I also wonder why does this kid not feel challenged? He  sounds quite smart, and he's in college now -- can't he make or find his own challenge? Or is he just sitting back and waiting for someone to tell him to do a particular thing and hopes he will feel challenged by it? If I were you, I'd treat this the same way as I treat my younger kids when they tell me they are bored. Go find something interesting to do! Why are you waiting for me to tell you what to do? So tell him to go find a challenge![/quote]

I do actually see this in a lot of kids who were driven to be high-achievers.  The achievements were externally motivated or done as a means to an end (almost always, getting into a good college).  Once they are out of the house and their parents aren't controlling so much, or they've gotten into college, the motivation is gone.  Or they never learned how to go out and find something that interests them, because other people were always telling them what they needed to do (take certain classes, do certain activities, etc.); college is so much more self-determined and there are a lot of options but you have to go out and find them, and if you never really had a chance to practice that, you can end up a bit stalled out.

That said, it's possible that the kid feels appropriately challenged, and just telling Mom that classes are fine, not too hard, etc.[/quote]

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