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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mine had IVY dreams and was waitlisted last year.  He is happy where he is this year and has no desire as well to transfer.  He's taken an attitude now that if he had to redo high school, he would have enjoyed it more and not stressed so much.

I think academically he knows he is capable but socially perhaps it's better where he landed.  I can only see growth from this experience and no need to transfer for an undergrad degree.  Let them enjoy these discoveries.

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Kids raised in this area get the impression (often from competitive parents, who pressure them for perceived perfection) that anything less than a T20 is failure.

How healthy that when they wind up elsewhere, that they kids realize that there are other smart people there, that they are learning, that life is not only about "winning" or work. 
If only they could bring their parents along on their journey of growth![/quote]

I think it depends.  My parents would only pay for state school, not private.  I was able to see the vast networking system and doors open for my husband that attended a top 5 university that I just did not have from my large state university.  Of course, it's going to depend on the university AND the major/field and if the kid goes to a med/law/grad school after.  There are so many variables.  I did go onto grad school. I basically had to coming out of my state university. My husband did not--through his university he was set up in a pretty prime first job out of college that was a launching point for the rest of his career.  He did not come from wealth or means--he was a poor kid with a single mom.  I, to this day 20 years later, still see the clout his degree holds.  People also wrongly make assumptions about me based on where I attended when I was in the top 1% of my HS class and very high SATs, etc.  People can be snobby a-holes.

Past your first job, you are then judged on your work experience and the degree is less relevant.  But, being on one end and seeing the difference is eye-opening.  I see it now with my kids that went to public school K-8 and now are in a private high school.  I see what they are offered, all the advantages and attention, the involvement of the college counselor, the opportunities, the network as well.  It's very, very different than what we received even in a very well-regarded public school system.

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Great, sincere post ! This has been our experience for many whom we know well.

Are you willing to share which school your husband attended ? TIA[/quote]

Hopkins.  #7 now but was in top 3 his year:)[/quote]

JHU is a serious school regardless of rank. Always #1 in R&D expenditures.

Our extended family had the same experience more recently from Brown, U Chicago, Northwestern (both undergrad & grad), Columbia (both undergrad & grad), but--surprisingly--not Duke (same individual family member was both undergrad & grad).[/quote]

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