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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what do you want from this person?

You don't want to marry again. You are divorced with kids. You don't want more kids. You are 45. You don't want a serious relationship.

One can presume that you also want someone who also does not want kids, does not want to get married.

What do you bring to the table? It is only ever going to be a sex relationship.  I think what you are objecting to is that you want to be treated like a girlfriend. You want someone to have sex more frequently with you, text every day, take you for a date etc.   Isn't that what you want?

Well, there is no future with you with this particular man.  He is also a sad sack who lives with his parents.  (Asian? Indian?)  He cannot introduce you to his parents because you are the manifestation of his failure to launch.  If he had options in life, he would not have picked you. The same goes for you. Are you the same race as him?

What you are reacting to is the reality that he may be the best that you can have.   In the meanwhile, if you want to date others, you should go ahead.

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Let me explain it in clearer terms so you can stop making assumptions.

I want to see someone once a week. I don't need daily texting but a few times a week is good. He does not live with his parents. His cousin lives with him and his other family is nearby and stop by too frequently so I can't go there and he comes to me occassionally when I am kid-free. I don't need to be treated like a girlfriend. I need more consistent communication and sex. Seeing someone once or twice a month is not worth it to me. That is what it is with him and he will go for a week without communication. That is too inconsistent for me. I brought this up and he says it is because we are both busy...which is true...but I want more reliability after this much time.

I have a line of men when I want, thanks...so I don't appreciate the put downs. He is a nice person but is inexperienced in relationships, so that is why I feel he thinks this is more than it is. He still thinks it could be more. I don't want "more"; I just want more consistency. [/quote]

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