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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved. [/quote]

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs.  Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities. [/quote]

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.[/quote]

This is a bad take. Uninviting is rude and a gaffe. Period. Being a host is about showing others a good time - it is not about your convenience. If you cannot handle the typical ins and outs of planning a party without a martyr’s attitude, just don’t do it. (Not directed at OP)

the siblings thing is a dilemma and a lesson learned for next time. I’d send a note like - “Sorry, siblings may be provided an alternate activity due to space restrictions at the venue.” Bring coloring books and have them sit with parents. Some parents would get the hint from that message and remove the siblings altogether.[/quote]

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