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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m guessing OP, you’re someone who has low tolerance for anything remotely negative, and feel compelled to say something positive even if it’s over the top. Personally I can’t stand this, it just seems fake. I would behave like your friend too if I felt someone was being over the top positive. It doesn’t sound like she’s negative, she’s just not responding to your bubbliness and ignoring it.[/quote]

This is OP here. Thanks for your input. Some of what you say is true, but there is a reason. I like to focus on the positive things in life, and be happy for what I CAN do, as opposed to the things I CANNOT do.

When I was in my 20s my mom sometimes called me a debbie downer because I often let negative thoughts enter my mind, and I complained about things, or compared myself to others.

I now try to focus on the positive side of life. If I had a nice walk in the park, why shouldn't I mention it to other people? Our local park is beautiful.
I no longer live in the shadow of others (which I used to do, especially in my teens to early 20s), I do things, I go places, I enjoy talking to people.
I'm not getting any younger and I just want to enjoy what life has to offer. Nothing wrong with that.[/quote]

no one said there was anything wrong with it.
No one said you shouldn't mention those things.

most responses are saying that the friend is being cordial, not negative.  I just think you aren't this person's cup of tea (and you wouldn't be mine either, from your self descriptions) and that is ALSO ok ... she isn't a friend, she is an acquaintance.

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