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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am generally a glass half full, try to see the positives type of person. Something about your posts is really off putting.  Also, I can't imagine gushing over how much you loved planning your own wedding to someone who seems hung up on what sounds like a bitter divorce. [/quote]

What do you mean by off putting? My husband and I are always polite and friendly to her. 
Her divorce was over 17 years ago. She was already divorced when we moved to this town 17 years ago.[/quote]

Why would you bring up your own wedding when she is talking about her daughter’s? If she says the planning is difficult, you should sympathize. You shouldn’t talk about how easy it was for you (likely two decades ago). She may be having to work with her ex-husband, potentially his new spouse, her child’s fiancé’s family - there could be a whole bunch of dynamics causing the planning to be difficult and you are brushing it off and saying how easy it was for you (again, many years ago). I would be slightly offended if I were her.

Stop trying to make this friendship happen. She doesn’t want to be friends with you. She isn’t a negative person - she just isn’t responding positively to your overtures. It seems like you want to be her friend bc she has lots of local connections and you want those too - that’s gross. Focus on the people who do like you and leave this woman alone. [/quote]

A pp hit it on the head. Op makes everything about her. [/quote]

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