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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The people I know that get money from their parents are out of touch.  Nice people but just divorced from reality.  Like talking about a really expensive vacation that one couldn't afford from where we work or they say daycare costs are no big deal because their parents cover it.  They just don't seem to have any perspective about how fortunate they are and they don't seem to grasp that not everyone gets financial assistance like that.[/quote]

OK I am one of those people. How would you prefer we approach the situation to other people? At the time that I’ve been upfront about having money from family it feels like people take it the wrong way. When I don’t, it feels like people think how you would think.  I’m very well aware of the other people do not have the same financial advantage. I honestly don’t really talk about it much except with other people that I know I have the same situation.[/quote]

Probably not you, but I have a friend in your situation who likes to brag about the adventurous risky things he did, how he doesn't play it safe in his career, etc. etc.  Yeah, because if it doesn't work out, your life will still be comfortable.  Of course, now that we aren't in our 20s, the stakes are different.  [/quote]

+1 I think the big point is self-awareness--I have wealthy friends who are self-aware of how their advantages spill over into so many spheres of their lives that some of their personal achievements are in part due to how they have less stress so they can focus more, workout more, attend events that build their skills and networks etc.  They just seem attuned to how wealth is not just buying things but also is supporting their own 'self-improvement' in ways that others don't have as easy access to.  Other less self-aware friends might know it is gauche to talk about an expensive vacation or purchases with those who can't afford it, but give advice/brag about personal development (e.g. working out, taking sabbaticals, retreats, career building etc) things as if they are about will power, risk-taking, discipline and other individual traits when they are just as much or more about having loads of support and a robust safety net.  [/quote]

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