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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is that SIL’s husband on? Are you the only spouse not on? [/quote]

Yes and yes.

I'm not always around. My work involves working away regularly.[/quote]

Okay, so your DH isn’t actually pulling his weight on MIL’s care.  The other siblings are making it work by sharing the effort with their spouses, while your DH contributes less.  I can see why SIL is unhappy.[/quote]

My DH is the only sibling who works full-time. The others work very part-time or whenever they are able to get work (in a creative field).
The other siblings also live closer to MIL, 40 minutes vs 1.5 hours where we live.
I think DH does pull his weight, just in a different way. They all do different things.[/quote]

And here comes the litany of excuses for why your DH “can’t” do his fair share.  Plenty of us who have been involved in elder care for parents know this song well, we’ve heard it many times from our own siblings. [/quote]

You speak from personal trauma, but it doesn't mean that OP's husband is slacking off. [/quote]

OP has basically admitted that he/OP aren’t doing as much as the other siblings/their spouses.  [/quote]

They live further away. It isn't practical for OP or her husband to be there as often. [/quote]

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