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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I make more money than DH, and have a more demanding job,[b] but at the end of the day it has to be the mom who does most school related and child related things[/b].

Sure maybe DH can stay home when they are sick (how often is that really, we had like maybe 5 days a year?).

But for school volunteering, or playdates, or whatever when DH showed up, he was treated as the odd DH.  First time, it was all cheers (what a great dad), but by the second time they were wondering where I was.  In general parenting events are the moms, and dads are mostly not welcome.  Coordinating for playdates and camps? Moms want to be texting and talking to moms, and carpooling with moms generally,

We hate it, but see how the family we know where the DH is default is ostracized -- we accept our lot.[/quote]

What a bizarre concept.  Where do you live?  The 1970's?

I am the dad and I do probably 90% of kid related things.  My wife has a degenerative eye disorder and has very limited driving options which will probably go away in the next few years if her vision continues to degenerate.

My twins are in 5th grade and I usually am the default parent for anything outside the house and she is the default parent for things at home.  And we've never had a problem.  I go to playdates, I go to the playground, I take them to school every morning and meet them after school.  Other than when they were infants and my wife was in a Mom's multiples group based around same age birth groups, I have usually been the default parent for meetups and playdates, etc.  I have only infrequently been an "outsider" at playdates and such.  I go to the playground and have plenty of Moms talk to me and socialize.  I'm sometimes the outsider when the Moms are already friends, but not often.  Most of the Moms I meet at casual events, are at least polite and courteous if not friendly.  And I'm usually the one on the text chains.  Sometimes my wife is included, but most families learned pretty quickly that I'm the one to contact.[/quote]

You must be related to my husband! I loved the part about "I'm usually the one on the text chains...but most families learned pretty quickly that I'm the one to contact." That's exactly how it is with us. [/quote]

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