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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I would advise against this.

Have her join specific clubs of her interest instead. Sorriorties can be cruel, rush is cruel. [/quote]

Ugh, our resident Greek Life hater.  Hi!  Op, my DD pledged a sorority and can be described very much like your daughter.  It has had its' ups and downs, but, in the end, has been a very gratifying experience for her and her friend group.  I was ultimately on the side of no Greek life, while my DH fully supported it, with us deciding it was her life and her decision.  She eventually received  six bids to six sororities and wisely chose the one that she knew she would fit into, not the most popular one which was originally her first choice.  The rush experience truly helped her sort out the minute differences that helped her arrive at the final selection.  It has been a very supportive and enlightening environment she chose to place herself in, no regrets whatsoever.  And yes, my DH gets to tell my "I told you so" whenever he wants on the subject.  Lol.  [/quote]

But your DD got 6 bids, including her original first choice.  Now imagine being a girl who only gets one bid (or none), and it's to the "lowest ranked" sorority and not one she envisioned being a part of.  Can you see how demeaning and damaging that can be to her moral and overall well being?[/quote]

+2 My freshman DD calls often in tears about how miserable she is at school now that all her friends are in a sorority and she isn’t. It is even worse when other girls mention how sorry they are and that they “can’t believe” she was dropped by XYZ sorority. It seems like a silly thing to transfer colleges over, but she really can’t see how this gets better over the next 4 years unless she finds all new friends. I was neutral on Greek life before, but this entire experience has turned me into a hater! [/quote]

In this situation,  a girl stands a very good chance of getting a sophomore invite to the sorority when her friends can talk her up at the rush meetings.  [/quote]

But she has to survive mentally for another 9 months?!?!?  She has no friends---the people she thought were friends are now sorority girls and have no time for her.  It's cruel and brutal.

I feel your pain for your DD.  Mine rushed (not my choice) because all of her friends did and thankfully they all ended up in the same sorority---but it could have just as easily ended really bad (and my DD had a rough start to college and the thought of making friends 3K miles from home---panic attacks, etc)  So while I"m glad she found her place, I still am not a fan of greek life.  For her not rushing would have been worse, as she definately would have not been with her friends as they are pledges.  [/quote]

During parent orientation a psychiatrist spoke and said their team does not need to know the date when rush bids come out.  They know by the influx of students seeking help.  Repeats ever year and that at a place with a low Greek culture.  The kids are so focused on the rush that they have the rug pulled out from under them when they are not getting in and the circle of "friends" they focused on is suddenly busy with their sororities/fraternities.  The struggle to deal with rejection and refocus friendships on non-Greek circles that have had now a head start on connecting already.
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