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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having PPA/PPD and intrusive thoughts was the scariest, most mind-bending experience of my life. It is unfortunately not hard to imagine someone with a more severe form being moved to uncontrollable extremes. I feel nothing but horrible sadness for all involved.[/quote]

So then why did he leave the kids with her? She was on leave from work and in 5 days/week outpatient care. Did that not feel that serious to him?[/quote]
NP. I’m not going to judge this guy. Maybe he thought she was doing better. Maybe she claimed she wasn’t having any thoughts of harming herself or others. Maybe the kids were already in bed for the night and he didn’t think she’d interact with them. Maybe he’d been watching all of them like a hawk for months and just needed 20 minutes to himself. Maybe his wife asked for takeout and he was trying to make things as smooth for her as possible. I don’t know why he left them, but he’s a victim in this too. His children are all dead and his wife will be incarcerated/institutionalized. He may be contemplating suicide himself at this point.[/quote]

Of course he is a victim but it just seems like a very odd choice. If my husband were on leave from work in full time outpatient care for mental illness, I would never in my wildest dreams leave him alone with our children. [/quote]

An outpatient program would indicate that they felt she wasn't at immediate risk to harm herself or others.  He was working from home fulll time to support her as much as possible. We have no idea of the specifcs of the case but it is very likely that there was no expectation of 24/7 observation and she may never even have threatened to hurt the kids. The vast, vast majority of people with mental illness never hurt others. Many many people are in outpatient treatment programs for mental illness and their spouses are not providing 24/7 care. If someone is assessed as needing 24/7 supervision, they would be inpatient. This man went out to pick up dinner and came home to find his 3 kids “unconscious, with obvious signs of severe trauma,” at the hands of his wife. He is a victim. Your victim blaming and making him responsible for her actions is pretty vile. [/quote]

Its an anonymous message board and its a fair question why he thought this was a good decision. That doesn't make him responsible. I'm allowed to wonder - you aren't the thought police. [/quote]

NP but you’re a horribly non-empathetic person to “wonder” that about the husband. Horribly.[/quote]

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