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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just move to a family friendly neighborhood and make new friends.  [/quote]

I would warn against getting too close with your neighbors, especially if their kids are the same age. These friend groups don’t last forever, and there is usually an unpleasant end. [/quote]

My child is only a toddler so maybe in a few years, I'll find your advice to be prescient.  But for now I am so happy to live near several nice families with young kids because I don't have the time or energy to drive around for playdates.  When the nanny has left at 5pm and I have a half hour of play time before dinner is ready, it's awesome to go out in the yard and chat with the friendly moms across the street while our kids play together.

But you have to put in work, and I think that's where OP is struggling.  Friends (and loving extended family) don't fall into your lap. You have to work on building and maintaining relationships.  When my daughter was a baby and I pushed her stroller for an hour every day, I chatted up every mom I saw.  I wasn't shy about asking if they wanted to exchange numbers if we were vibing.  I used to joke with my husband that I was out picking up moms.  I'm much older than most moms in my neighborhood, and tbh I consider them mom friends rather than real friends.  But they still enrich my life!  I work from home and feel isolated most of the day, so if it wasn't for my awesome neighbors, I would only be able to socialize on the weekend.[/quote]

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