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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are not owed anything from dead relatives. You did not earn that money. Have grace. [/quote]
Well I mean neither did my cousin, but it had to be left to someone. It’s hurtful nonetheless, to know my grandfather didn’t see me as deserving. I wish I could ask him why. [/quote]

He could’ve left it to Donald Duck. And I still think you’re being irrational. It’s not yours to have.  [/quote]
NP, but you honestly can’t understand the hurt? [/quote]

I can understand initial hurt and disappointment, but then it’s time to move on. Her disappointment stems from what her perceptions/assumptions of what was going to happen.

OP says herself “ I work my butt off, and for what!” That tells me there’s more going on than just the grandfather’s inheritance. She has a chip on her shoulder. I hope she’s able to work through these issues, finding acceptance and happiness.[/quote]
I get that, but when we pass on and leave our estate to others, with it we have the choice to either improve our memories in the eyes of our loved ones, or tarnish them, as noted here. A blatant choice was made here, and a tarnished memory formed because of that choice. [/quote]

Very weird world view. My estate planning is about trying to create the best outcomes. Nothing to do with “tarnishing” anything. I hope my kids and grandkids are a lot more mature than you and OP. But if they aren’t I guess I don’t care. People can always choose to be unhappy. [/quote]

I 100% understand OP. I would be hurt too and would want to understand why I am left aside and it would tarnish some memories. People, be careful about your wills, who you include and who you don’t matter.

Had OP’ grandfather left a letter to her saying « I love you very much, I left more to your cousin only because he needed more etc.. » she would be ok. She would have the initial disappointment and would have wished her grandfather realized she needed it too, but she would be able to move on.

This is a wound that is much harder to heal. [/quote]

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