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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a brother who died before I was born. I can't imagine my parents would [i]want[/i] to outlive him longer than they already have by the time they're too old to work. Right now, they're in their 70s and in good health physically, but I'm sure they're riddled with guilt over the fact that every breath they're taking is one their first child is not. I think they secretly want that to end as soon as possible. There would be something terribly wrong with them if they didn't feel that way.[/quote]

What? Unless somehow your parents are at fault for your brother’s death, why would they feel guilty that he died?

Yes, of course, they feel sadness that he did not live to be an adult, and that grief will never go away, but they shouldn’t feel guilty that they are still alive and he is not. And they certainly shouldn’t feel that they don’t deserve to live much longer because of their guilty feelings.

It sounds as though you are imagining for some reason that they feel this way, but if they have truly expressed these feelings and they appear to be depressed because of them, you could help them by suggesting and supporting them in getting therapy. They are only in their mid 70s and in good physical health- they can enjoy many more years if they also have good mental health. 
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