Reply to at a loss as to how to make DH see reason...

Forum Index » Expectant and Postpartum Moms

Reply to "at a loss as to how to make DH see reason..."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, I hope the OP and the PPs who think it's perfectly reasonable to ban an IL visit to a new grandchild are making sure that you only have girls ... otherwise watch out because you know what they say about karma.

A new mom should be afforded every possible comfort and prerogative, and there are lots of restrictions that are totally reasonable - she should be able to determine whom she wants to see her in labor; who stays at the house after the baby is born; etc. But banning the grandparents from coming to see their grandchild at all is over the top. [b]I'd be interested in hearing the OP's explanation - what possible imposition can it be to let them spend a few hours in your house with your newborn a few days after you come home from the hospital?[/b]

I don't even like my ILs but if they lived within driving distance I can't even imagine telling them they couldn't lay eyes on their new grandchild for weeks even as my own mother stayed overnight. It's just obnoxious and sets you up for a lot of power struggles and marital conflict down the road.

[/quote]

I posted about this (OP here), but wanted to specifically address this poster-I have come to grips with the fact that his parents have every right to visit their grandchild.  EVERY RIGHT.  And in fact, would have invited them to come up once I gave birth.  It's the fact that DH is demanding equalness in everything, right up to his parents staying with us, and not wanting to compromise at all that makes me burn.  [b]We are not equal[/b].  I am giving birth; he is not.  I will be dealing with BFing; he will not.  Therefore, I think I have the right to ask his parents to come over when I feel most comfortable, NOT when he wants/feels entitled to.[/quote]

Remember you said this when you feel like you're doing the lion's share of the child rearing and you resent that.

If you want an equal partner, he gets equal rights.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics